We all feel the same things. We may not verbalize it. However, whether it is a fear of public speaking, writing or singing, rejection by a boss or a friend, working too hard and not doing anything (or being told to be lazy) we all dislike something about ourselves. The reality is, life will beat us down at times for no apparent reason and it’s inevitable that we will let one or more of those elements sink in our minds and produce an inner resentment from time to time. We can stop this from happening by learning how to detach from the things we hate about ourselves and defeating those negative thoughts once and for all by changing your beliefs.
Remind yourself you’re worthy of love.
This is the most powerful way to detach from the things you hate about yourself. When you remind yourself that you are worthy of love, it’s hard not to feel loved. You begin to see yourself in a new light, as someone who deserves to be loved and cared for.
When we believe we’re not deserving of love, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle where we think we’re unlovable and unworthy of receiving it. But when we realize that we are deserving of love, it becomes easier to receive it and open ourselves up for others’ affection as well.
Recognize that hating on your body doesn’t make you healthy or strong.
It makes you weak.
If you’re the type of person who regularly hates on his or her body, it’s time to recognize that hating on your body doesn’t make you healthy or strong. It makes you weak and insecure, and that’s why it’s so hard for people to accept themselves when they’re overweight or have cellulite or other physical imperfections.
We’re supposed to hate ourselves for our flaws in order to become better people, but what if we’re just being lazy? What if we can’t stand ourselves because we hate our bodies?
It may seem like it makes perfect sense at first glance: If you hate yourself for something so fundamental, then maybe there must be something wrong with the way that thing exists inside of you. But here’s the thing: Those things are part of who you are as a human being. They’re part of your humanity; they make up who you are as a whole person — not just as a body but also as an individual mind and spirit. If someone hated themselves because they were overweight or had cellulite or whatever else.
Know you can have a critical self-image and still be compassionate.
I hated my body, my mind, my emotions, and my past. I had a really harsh self-image that made me feel like a loser. But at the same time I was extremely compassionate towards others. And this is because I knew that having a critical self-image doesn’t mean you’re always going to hate yourself or other people around you. You just need to know when it’s time to take a step back and think about what you’re doing before you say something out loud or do something else that could hurt someone else’s feelings or reputation.
Create a space where people agree not to talk shit about their bodies.
When we’re holding in our negative feelings about our bodies and ourselves, it’s easy for others to see that stress in us. When we’re stressed, we get upset easily. And when we’re upset, we tend to lash out at the people who annoy us the most.
If you want to detach from something about your body, start by creating a space where people agree not to talk shit about their bodies. Once you create that space and make it clear that if anyone talks about their body negatively in front of you, they will be subject to your punishment, then you can stop listening to them when they talk about how terrible their bodies are.
Set yourself up for success by surrounding yourself with positive, body-positive people and images.
If you want to take your life in a new direction, it’s important to surround yourself with people who inspire you. If you’re not surrounded by positive people, it can be difficult to keep up your best self.
It’s also important that your social media feed be full of body-positive content so that you’re constantly reminded of what being healthy looks like.
Have a mantra.
“I am not my job.”
“I am not my family.”
“I am not my past.”
“I am not my future.”
“I am not my body.”
“I am not my looks.”
“I am not my money.”
“I am not the things I do.”
Remind yourself that you don’t have to hate your body in order to change it.
Hating your body is so much easier than loving it. And hating your body is what makes people think they need surgery and other medical procedures just so they can look good enough. But really, if they just worked on themselves instead of worrying about what other people think of them, they could improve their appearance without having to resort to plastic surgery or expensive medicine.
If you can’t stop the negative thoughts from happening, try not to pay them attention when they do.
Instead of getting angry with yourself for having these thoughts, ask yourself what you can do differently next time.
If you’re having trouble doing this, try to think about the good parts of your life instead.
When you focus on the negative things about yourself, it will make them seem more important in your mind.
Remember there’s a lot more to life than how your body does or doesn’t look like other people’s bodies, or the “ideal” body you see in the media.
You’re smart, funny and talented. You’re not just an object that someone else created for their own pleasure.
There are so many things about yourself that make you awesome. And there’s no reason why you have to let your ideas about what “perfect” looks like stop you from being the person you want to be.”
The process of growing up is always an interactive one. We learn what we do and do not like about ourselves from the reactions of others, and we apply that knowledge to our own views of who we are. Sometimes this process is difficult, but it is necessary for us to understand how we are perceived by others. With this in mind, I guess the best I can recommend is to try and keep in mind that other people’s opinions matter less than your own opinion of yourself—and that no opinion of yourself should be static.
Don’t let your fear of others (especially people who don’t matter) allow you to hate parts of yourself that are actually wonderful and unique.
Author: AKSHR
